Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Casual Sex


I wish I could say I don't see the purpose it....but I do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Let me say what my definition of casual sex.  To me, casual sex is having sex with anyone that is not your man or woman; oral and penetrable sex with someone(s) that you are not monogamous with. [yes, I know someones is not the plural form for someone...lol]

I haven't been in a relationship for about 12 months.  That's a long time to go without sex. Not impossible (to withhold from sex), but not ideal either.

Um, so how much info. about my sex life do I want to expose...lol...???  Well, I will say that I am guilty of participating in casual sex.  But I don't make it a habit.  Honestly, I don't think I am equipped to have casual sex.  I have sex with someone and think I am 'in love'...sad, but true. And no, not really "in love"--but that level of intimacy brings out feelings in me.

This is a difficult topic.  So, I brought it up because I would love to have a constant sex partner, right about now.  I don't want to meet random people and sex them up and then move on to the next.  I am not built like that.  I am a germophobe---to a small degree---and to a LARGE degree---I am terrified of sexually transmitted diseases (S.T.Ds).  I dont see how people can be so free with themselves and sleep with strangers and have unprotected sex and put themselves at risk for anything! I dont get it. 

Most people dont say, "Can I see your papers?" prior to getting it in with a new sex partner.  Why not?  Especially when considering what is at risk. 

Me being a lesbian---I don't use protection/dental dam when having sex with other lesbians.  And I should!  I have my papers but nobody has ever asked me to show them.  What is it about sex that people are willing to die or burn, or have constant outbreaks for a few minutes or few hours of pleasure?  Very strange to me. 

So, I love being single and only having to answer to myself.  But Oh, how I miss having someone to have sex with any time I want.  And even then, I probably didn't take advantage of it...lol.  I miss having someone to hold and hold me.  I miss the intimacy that comes with being in a committed relationship.  I can't stand not having sex because there is no one to have sex with---lol.  Or because you dont know the sexual habits of others.  It's very difficult. 

This is how strange I am.  I really dont agree with casual sex.  Its dangerous and people usually get attached or hurt or whatever.  And as I mentioned before, there is room to pass so many diseases, so quickly.  My ideal vision of how casual sex would be--is for two people that arent in a relationship to agree to monogamously have sex with each other.  Which I know doesn't make a lot of sense and that sounds like it would lead to a relationship---but what's wrong with that? But then again, someone would stray. 


Top Two Pics: One large condom--for those of you with king kong dicks or king kong-sized dildos
Bottom Pic: Several average-sized, rainbow colored condoms.
[ I own the rights to the 3 above picures.  I took them myself :-) ]

So, I guess my point is---if its worth it to you, and it should be worth it---you should ask to see someone's papers or even go with your future sex partner to get tested together.  Or use protection---no matter how unnatural/annoying/irritating it may feel.

Sunday, August 5, 2012

Kiss-In...Really?

Okay, so you all probably heard about Chick-fil-A's C.E.O Dan Cathy giving his two cents about the origins of marriage, and how he believes that marriage should be between a man and woman, "I think we're inviting God's judgment when we shake our fist at him, you know? 'We know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage.' And I pray on God's mercy on our generation, that has such a prideful, arrogant attitude to think that we would have the audacity to try and redefine what marriage is all about" (2012).


Fine and good.  He thinks that marriage should be between heterosexual couples.  Okay, he is one of millions and billions.  So fucking what! And now, according to an article published in The Bottom Line on NBCNews, grassroots advocate Carly McGehee organized a 'Chick-fil-A Kiss-In', for Friday, August 3, 2012, to protest Cathy's anti-gay marriage remarks:
http://bottomline.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/08/03/13104208-pro-gay-marriage-groups-have-chick-fil-a-kiss-in?lite




I first learned of the 'Kiss-In' while listening to the Yolanda Adams Morning Show, at the beginning of the week.  So, I get a sort of anxiety when there are open discussion forums about homosexuality and gay marriage and gay rights, etc.  But more so when the forum is directed at Christians and those who identify as Christians.  My anxiety and frustrations comes when these so-called Christians deem themselves qualified in the department of determining which sin is greater, which sins are unforgivable, which sins should be reprimanded, and which sinners should be 'crucified'.  It makes me sick to my stomach.  So, I briefly listened to callers comment on their views and opinions of Cathy's statement, as well as their personal opinions on the sanctity of marriage.  As expected, most of the callers sided with Cathy and did not agree with the 'Kiss-In'.  Most of what I heard was that the callers were disappointed that Cathy could not express his feelings, without the uproar of the LGBT Community.  


So...what I thought I was going to hear was that the LGBT Community organized some sort of boycott of Chick-fil-A, in response to Cathy's anti-gay marriage remarks.  I was surprised to hear that my community organized a darn "Kiss-In".  I dont see the validity in that, I dont see what purpose that would serve!  To have people waste gas, waste time, and energy, to sit in a place where they feel their rights are not being acknowledged or supported seems idiotic and immature to me.  Wouldn't it make more sense to stay as far away from the place as possible?  Wouldn't your point be better proven? What the hell does public displays of affection and making others uncomfortable prove?!?  



Proud members of the LGBT who participated in National Kiss-In Day (8/3/12)

I have a neice that is lesbian---she is 17 years old. I talked to her about what was going on and what she thought about frequenting Chick-Fil-A, now that she knew the opinion of the organization's C.E.O.  And I usually take her there and treat her to a meal once weekly or bi-weekly.  So, I am a frequent customer of the franchise.  I believe they provide a quality product.  So anyway, she said "I dont care about the man, I just like his food".  So, while she doesn't have any fancy degree, what she said to me was profound.  And we took our bi-weekly trip to Chick-Fil-A to get her meal :-).   

*I do not own any rights to the pictures posted in his blog. I do, however, own the rights to my thoughts and opinions.  If any quote is proven false or fabricated, I will remove immediately**