Sunday, September 26, 2010

Morehouse Dress Code

Yesterday was the perfect day!  I went to a family cookout at Hains Point (sadly, no longer home to the Awakening Sculpture).  

It was perfect because we had a spot in the shade, very little bugs to fight with, and a great view of the water.  My girl and I sat on a bench away from the family and watched the planes take off and land at Reagan International Airport.  It was the perfect day.  

My girlfriend pointed out an article to me that she read in the September 2010 edition of Ebony magazine; you know, the one featuring President Barack Obama.

The article was about Morehouse College's dress policy.  Morehouse College is an all-male, prestigious college in Atlanta, Georgia.  Below are some of the school's new dress code policies:

* no caps, do-rags and/or hoods in classrooms, the cafeteria, or other indoor venues
* no sun glasses worn in class or at formal programs
* no jeans at major programs, as well as no sagging pants on campus
* no clothing with derogatory or lewd messages either in words or pictures
* no wearing of clothing usually worn by women (dresses, tops, tunics, purses, pumps, etc.) on the Morehouse campus or at college-sponsored events.

Did ya'll peep that last policy?  After doing some research I did find that there was quite a bit of controversy over the new policy (and forgive me if I am a year late because I did find some articles on the topic from Oct '09).  Of course I immediately felt that the last regulation was directed toward homosexual and cross-dressing men.  Wow!  What can we say about this?  I am not surprised.  We---homosexuals---have so much bullshit to deal with.  We have to adhere to every one's rules.  We have to closet ourselves in order to make heterosexuals  freakin' comfortable.  We have to suppress our desires and various forms of self-expression.  We have to play into the heterosexual models so as not to offend the masses.  WTF!  Can you imagine that these men, gay and straight, that have worked their asses off to even get accepted to Morehouse now have to contend with this?

Are you aware that these men are paying a maximum of $35,000 per academic year if they reside on campus  Can you fathom that after paying all of that money, some authority figure has the nerve to lay discriminatory rules on the gay, cross-dressing, trans population?  And the consequences for disregarding the school's dress code can lead to suspension and expulsion from the college. 

So what is next?  After my creative and smart homosexual men figure a way around the rules, then what?  I can see it now; Chris in his fitted pink slacks, John in his button-down shirt that he ties in the front, James in a suit with drag make-up on, and so forth.  Ya'll get my drift.  

Bruno putting his own spin on army uniform

Bruno in National Guard uniform with a stylish neck

Homosexual people are brilliant, smart, inventive, creative, and we can definitely make lemonade from lemons.  So, these regulations will be a minor setback, but hopefully, we can get around it in our own ingenious ways.  Next thing you know, Morehouse faculty will set military rules on their students; buzz hair cuts, no long hair, uniforms, the whole nine.  
The future Morehouse Uniforms

What do I recommend?

I feel like the right thing to do--if you are a man that wears dresses, purses, and pumps, is to enroll in another school.  Personally, I would not want an institution that DOES NOT accept me to benefit from me or my money.  

On the contrary, if you are patient enough to dress mainstream/heterosexual/gender expected for the 4-6 years that it takes to graduate, then go for it.  And then wear your pumps and clutch bag on the graduation stage.  I don't know.   

It just sucks that we take 2 steps forward just to take 1 step back.  I guess that is going to be our fate for a while.  But eventually, whether in my life time or later, I do envision that homosexual will have near-equal rights and treatments to heterosexuals.  I am not so naive to say 100% equality but damn near.  So, everything that happens to us I take as a learning experience.  What does NOT kill us will make us stronger.  So we homos are going to be some strong sons of bitches when its all said and done.  And I am good knowing that.  

Until next time...

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

What I love about being GAY

So, I've been gay since I was about 17 years old.  Of course we all go through our struggles of accepting our homosexuality and, at times, denying it.  I was terrified when I first realized my attraction to women; well, maybe not when I first realized.  But once I realized the possibility of being in a relationship with a woman, and having God and everyone else see me as a lesbian, it was definitely a struggle.  I went back and forth with myself.  I told myself that life would be sooooo much easier if I just 'chose' to be with guys and live the 'normal' or heterosexual life.  But I knew that I would have been lying to myself and whatever man I chose to be with.  So I took it on the chin and chose NOT to take the easy way out.

Once I started to accept myself as a homosexual, life  became very different.  I started meeting other lesbian and gay folks.  Well, that is only partially true.  Most of my closest friends from 6-9th grade ended up being gay as well.  Can I tell you that was the best thing ever?  It made shit a lot easier for me.  We all discovered our homosexuality at different stages, but just being 18-22 and gay, along with all of your closest friends, was the best thing ever.  This allowed the transition and adjustment period for me seem almost non-existent.  We started partying together, clubbing together, and everything you could think of; bowling, ice skating, drinking, and traveling.  One of my most fondest memories in life was when my 4 friends and I took a trip to Philadelphia---on a whim.  We all loaded up in the car on a Friday night and was at a hotel at about 1 or so Saturday morning.  We went to visit our other gay friends that were attending The Art Institute.  That weekend I went to the biggest sex shop ever (Condom Kingdom), went to my first ball, chilled in a hot tub with my closest friends and just had a good ass time.  I was young, didn't give a fuck about anything, and didn't think twice about taking that trip.

I said all of that to say that my friends made that transition so easy for me.  I loved going to clubs every weekend; mainly the Paradox in Baltimore.  We also went to strip clubs, they visited me on my college campus, it was never a dull moment.  I love going to the clubs and seeing beautiful ass women.  I am an ass woman personally! 

Check out Angela Simmons [left] below: I almost feel dirty about admiring her in this photo, but oh well!
Check out Mel B [right] below: sexy ass stepping out of the pool while husband admires all that ass!

I love how soft women are, I love the anatomy of a woman; beautiful breasts, pu$$y, minimal body hair, soft skin, and the fragrance of sweet something---I don't know what it is.  I love the stares that I get [good and bad] when I am walking hand and hand with my girl.  I love that I have a testimony everyday; knowing that I could choose to closet myself but am brave enough to love me for me.  Brave enough to say 'Fuck you' to anyone who does not accept my lifestyle.  I love that being gay also means being courageous and adventurous and sort of rebellious.  I believe that being gay is to be EXTRAORDINARY!  And I am certainly extraordinary.  I never want to be like anyone else---and that does not just refer to my sexuality.  I love being my own person; someone who thinks for herself, someone who says and does weird things, someone who often goes against the grain.  What is the fun in fitting in, blending in, falling in place?  Not much as far as I can tell.  

I love that gay people are beautiful, fun, funny, and sometimes OVER THE TOP!  I love the LGBT community and what is has to offer.  I love drag shows (though I have never been to one but have seen quite a few on television).  I love balls and other avenues where gay people can express themselves creatively.  My people are unique.  We are not like any other group of people in the world.  We are diverse, we are imaginative, inspiring, good-hearted, and stubborn as hell.  

These reasons, along with so many other reasons, are why I love being gay!!!

Friday, September 17, 2010

Just Being Me

 First,  I have to say that I find it very difficult sometimes to stay on top of my blog and to keep it current.  I find myself adding entries and then not knowing where to go next.  So, the title of this blog is 'Just Being Me'.  The first thing that I feel that I MUST do is post a picture of myself on here.  As an African American lesbian, I want to show that I am proud of myself, who I am, who I have become, and who I will ultimately grow to be.  So here I am:

That wasn't so hard.  So, what my aim for this blog is first, for me to immerse myself in the gay scene and really enjoy the company of 'my people'.  The other thing is to broaden the horizons of others.  I am 26 and have been gay for at least 8 years.  I do not have a Downelink profile; which I think is good to have; for various reasons; networking, job opportunities, upcoming LGBT events, news, knowledge, etc.  Well, I hope that all of this is offered on the website.  What I know for certain about the website is that it also serves the purpose of allowing the LGBT community to make random hook-ups, create platonic and romantic relationships, and basically the same things that you can do on other social websites. 

Back to the topic at hand.  I feel like if I have been a lesbian for almost a decade and am pretty much clueless to all that this community has to offer, than so are other gays and lesbians.  I am doing this for myself, but feel like I will ultimately spread some knowledge in the process.

I want to give a shout out to Ronnie T; a young man whose blog I just started to follow.  He has the hang of this thing more than I do and has already uploaded some videos online for the viewing pleasure of ALL; he says that he does not discriminate.  But anyway, I am proud of what he is doing and I love his attitude and confidence.  So, check him out in the link below: 

As for me, I am going to start thinking of ideas to blog about.  My blog is strictly for the LGBT community, as well as those who love and adore us (wink).  Something like the Utopian world in which Rosie O'Donnell created with her gay family cruises.  I watched the documentary 'All Aboard: Rosie's Family Cruise' which premiered on HBO in 2006.  If you have not seen it, I strongly suggest you watch it.  I don't know what the big deal is but I fell in love with it.  It came on a couple of weeks ago and I saved it to my DVR.  I just love what the cruise stands for and seeing how happy the passengers/families were.  I can't get enough of it.  I am anticipating the day when my hunnie and I can step foot on one of Rosie's gay cruises.

Well, it is a Friday night and I should be doing something fun, social, and GAY!  But I am going to be in the house, applying for jobs online, drinking on my triple black Smirnoff Ice and catching up on some Grey's Anatomy.  I am still on season 5 episode so I am going to enjoy this lazy night.

Until next time...

Friday, September 3, 2010

Happy Friday Ya'll!

So, I am just learning how to blog and add pictures and do the really fun and cool stuff.  Today, I learned how to view other blogs; just by clicking on my list of movies that I love (located in my profile).  Speaking of profiles, do you know that when you visit your own damn profile, you are counted as a viewer?  That really sucks.  Or I guess, for some people that want to boost their own egos, this might be a plus.  

Anywho, I learned that the gay men LOVE the movie Mean Girls...lmao.  I am a fan as well but I am surprised to see how many of them like it too.  So, its a Friday night and I dont have any plans.  I am drinking Tanqueray Vodka and Cranberry Ginger ale.  I have recorded Grey's Anatomy on the DVR and so I will be watching the 2 latest episodes a little later tonight.  I am new to Grey's Anatomy; but have been catching up since they have been showing 3 episodes daily on Lifetime.  I am currently at the beginning of season 4 and I love it to death.  What I don't love is change.  I have grown so accustomed to the original casts that I see all newcomers as intruders.  I think I am like that in my everyday life as well.  I don't love change though I know it is inevitable.  I find comfort in being able to predict certain things and seeing familiar faces.  However, with growth comes change.  So, as much as I cringe at the thought of change, it is actually a really positive and progressive thing.

I am a tv junkie.  I love Grey's Anatomy and I have learned how to watch episodes online when I can't wait until the next day to see the next episode.  While I am a visual person and always loved watching tv and movies, I've gotten worse in the last month since my summer job ended.  I feel unproductive some days because I can't get enough television.  Other days, I am productive---cleaning, washing clothes, having lunch, all the while, the television is motivating me through my various tasks.  Anyway, I know that I will be working soon and I will miss my shows and movies and staying up until the dawn of the next day.  

Have a great weekend!!

Noah'sArc:Jumping the Broom

Well...I love director, writer, and producer Patrick Ian-Polk and all of his work.  I love the acclaimed television series 'Noah's Arc' that initially aired on Logo and is now in syndication on Logo.  So, I was devastated at how the show ended in the 2nd season.  I can't really imagine why there wasn't a season 3, 4, 5, and 6.  I believe that Noah's Arc had/has a huge fan base.  I can't get enough of Noah and Wade, Alex and Trey, and the entire cast.  I love what the show stands for.  I love how the show focused attention on the black gay culture and all that it has to offer.  The show was about relationships; both functional and dysfunctional, HIV/Aids awareness, gay families, the gay social scenes, gay pride, gay bashing, and so much more.  I hung on every episode.

So, Patrick Ian-Polk created the feature film Noah's Arc: Jumping the Broom, released in limited theaters in the fall of 2008.  Can I just brag that I had the wonderful opportunity to meet and greet Mr. Patrick Ian-Polk at the Landmark E Street Cinema movie theater.  My girlfriend and I went to purchase tickets the night that the movie premiered, however, all the damn gays in D.C had already purchased all of the tickets and filled the theater.  Can I just say how disappointed I was that the movie was in limited theaters and was only advertised, on Logo, to the gay population?  These two white girls asked me and my girl what me planned to see that night.  We told them and they hadn't the slightest idea what we were talking about.  

So, Patrick Ian-Polk traveled all the way from the west coast to sit in the audience, with his viewers, and watch the premiere of his movie.  I love it!  Anyway, that is how I met Mr. Ian-Polk.  My girl and I purchased tickets for the next day and went back to the theater to see the movie.  Can I just say that the audience was live.  Those boys and girls in the theater were laughing out-loud and talking back to the screen.  Alex really stole the show when it comes to comedy.  I was disappointed at Wade's new 'do and was excited to see the straight-backs at the end of the movie.  Overall, I rate the movie a 10 out of 10.  I love the cast, I love the story line, and frankly, I can't get enough of Noah and his boys.  I just wish there was more to come.